Signs She's Cheating. Worried She's Cheating? Experts Reveal 1.
Signs To Look Out For. If you begin to suspect that you're being cheated on, you probably know to pay attention. This is your gut talking to you — and it’s an important one to pay attention to, especially if you’re starting to doubt the trust you’ve built with your long- term girlfriend within your committed relationship. If you start to suspect or worry that your partner is cheating — whether at work, online or with a guy friend you never trusted — it’s important to pay attention to your intuition, while also being realistic, too. Real infidelity that you can prove can have a hugely detrimental impact to your couplehood, and can often make it difficult to come back from — but so can accusing someone of being unfaithful with no proof. The foundation of every loving relationship is based on a genuine respect, admiration and steadfast trust in your partner, and anything that aims to threaten that connection is not only tricky, but can cause many hurt feelings, too.
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Luckily for you, we spoke with therapists, relationship experts and dating coaches to identify the big indicators that your girlfriend is cheating, how to identify different types of unfaithfulness and how to deal with paranoia, if your significant other actually hasn’t done anything wrong. Remember, any time your heart is tied to something, these uncomfortable and could- be painful situations can be incredibly difficult to sort through, so be patient with yourself (and your partner), listen to your instincts and get to know the facts before doing anything you might regret. Here’s what you need to know about her cheating possibilities: 1. What’s The Difference Between Physical And Emotional Cheating? If you’ve been tempted to cheat before (and hey, we’ve all been attracted to someone who wasn’t our mate, even if we didn’t act on it), it was probably because you wanted to sleep with them, right? That might not be the case for your girlfriend: while men are more likely to get physical with another woman, women are more likely to be swayed to the darker side by an emotional connection.
And though it might not feel as earth- shattering, falling in love instead of falling into bed is often a deeper, long- lasting type of infidelity.“The main difference between emotional and physical cheating is the modality or how the person cheats. Emotional cheating does not always include physical touch and physical cheating does not always include emotions. For instance, physical cheating means some form of physical touch occurs whether it is intercourse, oral sex, kissing, touching, etc.,” explains sex and relationship therapist, Courtney Geter, LMFT.“Emotional cheating may be deep, intimate conversation either in person or through messaging. Emotional cheating is subjective to the person or couple.
For instance, what one person may consider crossing the line may not bother another person. It's important for couples to discuss what is allowed to leave the relationship and to whom early on.
Keep in mind that both forms of cheating and merge where there is both emotional and physical cheating together.”So what might constitute as emotional cheating? Licensed clinical psychologist, Sarah Schewitz, Psy. D. Signs That She's Cheating. Ready for the signs that she might actually be cheating? Here, the experts lay it out. She Keeps To Herself.
She could be busy with juggling work schedules, making it to yoga class and seeing her girlfriends — but if she’s not telling you about her day, there’s a chance she’s telling someone else. While distance can, at times, make the heart grow fonder, if she no longer thinks to call you when something good, bad, funny, ridiculous or awful happens — it might be scary for you to think who she could be talking to.
A way to bring it up to her is to let her know how much you miss her, dammit.“She might be overly stressed about something unrelated to your relationship, she might be upset about something you did, or she might feel like you are pulling away and she doesn’t know how to talk to you about it,” Schewitz says. Say something like . I miss feeling close to you. Is there something you want to talk about or something I could do to bring us closer together again?’”She's Not As Open. Let’s be real: women are typically more open about their feelings than men are. It’s when you’re able to open up to a special girl that you feel connected to her, and when she opens up in return, your relationship really starts to grow.
However, if she’s quiet and hardly ever upset, she might be emotionally cheating with someone else. When she’s not as candid with you, she might be emotionally fulfilled by someone else.“This is a sign she is shutting down.
While it could indicate she’s cheating, infidelity rarely happens in a vacuum. If she’s shutting down, it’s because she is hurt or has lost trust in you as someone that will care about what she has to say,” Schewitz says.“She might be tired of having the same conversation over and over again with no change. She might be giving up on getting through to you but that doesn’t mean she’s being unfaithful. If she is not being as open as before, ask her why. Tell her you want to be there for her and support her through whatever she is going through.”She's Hiding Her Phone. When she’s doing something she knows she shouldn’t, it’s likely she’ll feel guilty about it.
You might notice that instead of spending time scrolling through Instagram on the couch with you, she put her phone in the other room. She probably doesn’t want to risk you looking over and catching her in the act. It could also be in response to something you did that made her question you, or that she’s pulling away, even if she’s not leaning closer to someone else.“These signs also indicate a possible change in her feelings in the relationship. For instance, if there are prior or recent violations of privacy, it's common for one to become more distant and protective of personal belongings. The trust and security of respect has been altered though it can be repaired,” Geter says. Or she could be protective of her phone for a whole slew of reasons, that have nothing to do with another man at all. As Schewitz explains, “She could be talking to her girlfriend about problems in your relationship and not want you to see it.
Or she could be planning a surprise for the two of you that she doesn’t want you to know about.”RELATED: What It Looks Like When A Woman Starts Having An Online Affair. Though you might be tempted to snoop (and yep, we’ve all done that before and regretted it afterwards, right?) — consider just asking her what she has up her sleeve.
She's Light On Details. She’s always had that monthly wine and supper club with her girls, and a few times a month when they hit the town, but now there’s a book club? And they’re taking boxing classes, too?
She could be needing more friendship time in her life, or she’s seeing someone on the side. The key here, according to House, is to pay attention to what she says when she sees you after those nights.“Instead of coming home and filling you in on all the details and gossip she learned while out with the girls, she is cagey and not forthcoming about what they did or talked about,” she says. Nikki Martinez, Psy. D., LCPC. Did she stop giving details because she feels like you don't want or care about them, or did she stop giving them even though you ask and show interest? If it is the latter, you should wonder why she is being so brief when this was not always the case,” she explains. One way to rectify this and see what’s happening is to explain how much you enjoyed talking to her about what’s going on in her life, what was inspiring her and how her friends were. This is a better solution than accusing her of leaving you out of the loop or lying about where she is.
Plus, it gives her the opportunity to dish on what might actually be bothering her. She’s Never In The Mood. Even if you’ve always been the initiator of sex in your relationship, if you can’t remember the last time you had sex — and she doesn’t seem too concerned to change it — than you might have validation to be suspect. But then again, it could be less about getting naked and more about how you’re connecting outside of your coital love life.“For women, sex is emotional. If they are unhappy in their relationship or even just annoyed with their partner for the night, the last thing on their mind is sex. Some women feel insecure about their aging and changing bodies which leads to them feeling less sexy and less in the mood,” Schewitz says. The best solution?
Talk about it, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Don’t be that guy. Tell her you miss the sex you used to have and ask her if she knows why she hasn’t been in the mood lately,” Schewitz says. One way to see if she’s getting intimately fulfilled elsewhere is to propose a trip to get that fire back, and see how she responds, says sex expert and commentator, Coleen Singer says. Offer to take her on a weekend getaway to a local hotel for some room service and sexy time. Or did she buy all new clothes, dye her hair or adopt a new viewpoint on makeup?
While these might be big warning signs that the girl you decided to date years ago isn’t the same one, a change in appearance could truly, and simply mean less about your relationship and more about her self- confidence. Especially after a stressful period, overcoming a tough challenge or having children, “Sometimes a girl just needs a change to feel good about herself again.
This may be more a sign of boredom with her current look, wanting to feel more confident,” Schewitz says. Or she could actually be focusing more on how she looks to reconnect with you again: “It's common for couples to neglect self care and stop dressing up for each other though it can impact the relationship. Maybe she realized this and is making a change — though not communicating it to you,” Geter says.